Friday, June 1, 2012

world is full with beauty, light & promises

i think i have read about this a few times.. and i just read it again this morning from my friend's fb wall. and it also reminded me on how i was furious with kaiser last night and we were like raising our voice to each other. well, kaiser raises his voice most of the time anyway... he's a german... and if you don't know him, you'll think that he is angry.. so, you can imagine how the house is like..? - an army camp - at times.. LOL :D anyway, yeahh i find this write up ermmm just reminds me that sometimes we tend to look at the lacking of our partners/spouses instead of the beauty side of them. :) so, people in love out there... please be reminded... and grow your love even further :) 
A man and his fiance were married. It was a large celebration. All of their friends and family came to see the lovely ceremony and to partake of the festivities and celebrations. A wonderful time was had by all. The bride was gorgeous in her white wedding gown and the groom was very dashing in his black tuxedo. Everyone could tell that the love they had for each other was true.
A few months later, the wife comes to the husband with a proposal: "I read in a magazine, a while ago, about how we can strengthen our marriage." She offered. "Each of us will write a list of the things that we find a bit annoying with the other person. Then, we can talk about how we can fix them together and make our lives happier together." The husband agreed. So each of them went to a separate room in the house and thought of the things that annoyed them about the other. They thought about this question for the rest of the day and wrote down what they came up with.
The next morning, at the breakfast table, they decided that they would go over their lists. "I'll start," offered the wife. She took out her list. It had many items on it. Enough to fill 3 pages, in fact. As she started reading the list of the little annoyances, she noticed that tears were starting to appear in her husbands eyes. "What's wrong?" she asked. "Nothing" the husband replied, "keep reading your list." The wife continued to read until she had read all three pages to her husband. She neatly placed her list on the table and folded her hands over top of it. "Now, you read your list and then we'll talk about the things on both of our lists." She said happily. 
Quietly the husband stated, "I don't have anything on my list. I think that you are perfect the way that you are. I don't want you to change anything for me. You are lovely and wonderful and I wouldn't want to try and change anything about you." The wife, touched by his honesty and the depth of his love for her and his acceptance of her, turned her head and wept.
IN LIFE, there are enough times when we are disappointed, depressed and annoyed. We don't really have to go looking for them.
We have a wonderful world that is full of beauty, light and promise. Why waste time in this world looking for the bad, disappointing or annoying things when we can look around us, and see the wondrous things before us? 
I believe that WE ARE HAPPIEST when we see and praise the good and try our best to forego the mistakes of our spouse. Nobody's perfect but we can find perfection in them to change the way we see them. It is necessary to understand the difficulties and be a helping hand to each other....THAT BRIGHTENS THE RELATIONSHIP.


Queen of hearts said...

Hi Ein!

Well for us, we find that it's best to talk about our likes and dislikes about each other. Because through the years we have change and our expectancy has change as well. We kept raising the bar a notch higher each time. Hehe! But we don't write down lah. We'd talk about it (at a suitable time of course. Bukan tengah marah). We've been doing this for yeaaaaaars.

Like us, we've known each other since we were teenagers. I didn't expect much from him then, because he was only a kid and not a husband nor a father to my kids. But as we get older we tend to want something and expect something more from our partner. So talking is always the best thing to do. If I'm not happy about something I'd talk to him. Because if I don't, he'll never know. (Again, pick a right time!)

I have my flaws. I'm bossy (he doesn't mind that) but he doesn't like that I don't say sorry and he's ALWAYS the one who has to say sorry first and make things better. Because I'd sulk and walk away. I wouldn't have noticed that if he hadn't point that out. I know I'm stubborn and hardheaded but he's sensitive and emotional. LOL!

Always talk to each other because when the talking stops, the problem starts. Just my two cents :P

Never mind the occasional quarrels. In every relationship, we need balance. I take it as day and night. Both is good but too much of day or night is not good. Just like eating without drinking and drinking without eating. Hehe! Before I start rambling I better go.

Ein said...

hahahaha :D you can ramble all you want... :P

we grow over the years in relationship.. as for me, most of the time i keep it to myself until the volcano burst.. which is not good for me or the relationship. once kaiser told me that i need to talk about it.. so... okay.. i learned to do that. but anyhow germans are damn hard headed and stubborn.. but if got him at the right timing he'll accept. tu lah nya.. just that last night or maybe i have been keeping it kut, tu yang meletop! hahaha :D and the fact that wives will always do more than husbands.. it's like when a wife is working, they are tired back from work, they still need to clean up when they get home... but husbands they don't... so that was the issue...